The Lavender Logs

Stories from the community

Real talk about lavender marriages, chosen family, and building life on your own terms.

CultureApril 2, 2026Latest

Gen Z Doesn't Want a Romance. They Want a Real Partner.

I didn't build LLMA because I read a trend report. I built it because I've been living this for 17 years. And right now, the research is finally catching up.

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Marty Thomas
CultureFebruary 28, 2026

Tax Benefits Are Not a Reward for F*cking

Somebody had the audacity to say lavender marriages shouldn't qualify for tax benefits. Sir. Who do you think you are?

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Marty Thomas
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RelationshipDecember 5, 2025

You Can F*ck a Stranger, But I Can't Love My Best Friend?

So let me get this straight. You can sleep with someone you met at a bar two hours ago. But I can't love the person I've built a life with for seventeen years?

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Marty Thomas
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LifestyleMay 11, 2025

When Motherly Love Showed Up Differently

Not every Mother's Day message starts with flowers and fond memories. Mine doesn't. But here's the truth: the love you missed doesn't define you. The love you choose does.

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Marty Thomas
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CultureMay 7, 2025

Coming Out at 82?! Barry Diller Just Blew Up the Timeline

Barry Diller — billionaire, married to Diane von Fürstenberg for 24 years. Now 82. And gay. Let's just sit in that for a second.

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Marty Thomas
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RelationshipApril 30, 2025

When You Don't See the Path — You Become It

There was a moment — not long ago — when I realized there was no playbook for the life I was trying to build.

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The LLMA Team
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Founding PostApril 26, 2025

Welcome to the Lavender Logs

If you had told me five years ago I'd be launching LLMA — a platform dedicated to redefining partnerships and chosen family — I would have questioned your sanity.

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Marty Thomas
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